Signs an aging parent may need more help
Small changes at home can be the first sign an older parent needs more help. This guide lists signs families often notice and options to consider next.
Last reviewed October 27, 2026
General information only. This guide is not medical, legal or financial advice. Talk with a physician, and with an elder-law or financial professional where money or legal papers are involved, about your own situation.
Changes in daily life
Changes in everyday routines are often the first thing families notice.
- Skipped meals, or little fresh food at home
- Trouble with bathing, dressing or personal care
- Missed appointments or social activities
- Less contact with friends and family
Health and safety signs
Some changes are about health and safety. Share what you notice with the person's doctor.
- Falls, near-falls or new bruises
- Missed or doubled medicines
- Memory changes that disrupt daily life
- Weight loss or changes in mood
Home and money signs
The home and the mail can also tell you something.
- Unpaid bills or late notices
- Unusual purchases, gifts or calls about money
- Clutter, spoiled food or household tasks left undone
- Dents or scrapes on the car
Next steps to consider
Options range from a little help at home to a move. Many families start by talking with the person and their doctor, then look at in-home help, adult day programs or a care community.
Frequently asked questions
Not necessarily. One sign on its own may have a simple explanation. A pattern of changes over time is a reason to talk with the person and their doctor.
Many families start by asking how things are going and listening, rather than proposing a plan. Including the person in decisions, and taking small steps first, often helps.
The Eldercare Locator connects families with local agencies on aging, which can describe in-home help, meals, transportation and other services in your area.
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